Understanding Post Infidelity Stress Disorder (PISD)

The phenomenon of Post Infidelity Stress Disorder captures the profound and tumultuous aftermath

What Are the Characteristics of Couples Who Can Talk About Sex?

For many couples, navigating topics such as finances, in-laws, and parenting choices can often be very

What is the Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish?

In the world of human sexuality, terms such as ‘fetish’ and ‘kink’ are often heard and sometimes used interchangeably.

Overcoming Spectatoring Through Mindfulness

While spectatoring leaves you feeling anxious and distracted, the mindfulness technique leaves you feeling calm and present during

Six Ways Spectatoring Affects Your Sex Life

Spectatoring represents a deep psychological disengagement in sexual experiences, where individuals become detached

How Sex Therapy Can Help Improve Sexual Wellness

Sex therapy, a refined form of professional counselling, is often misunderstood. It’s not just for addressing severe sexual

Does Stress Impact Your Sex Drive?

Stress has become a daily companion for many people in the hustle and bustle of modern life. It’s the unwelcome guest at our dinner tables,

Understanding the Male Refractory Period for a Better Sexual Experience

Because amongst everything else that you need to know about men, if you are one or have sex with one, is

Understanding Inhibited Ejaculation and Its Impact on Relationships

Inhibited ejaculation is a challenge that can create a silent chasm in a relationship, leading to feelings of

Why Does My Partner Lose His Erection When He Goes Down on Me?

The waxing and waning of erection, like the ebb and flow of tides, is a perfectly normal part of sexual

Venturing into Open Relationships: 6 Crucial Conversations for Every Couple

Entering the world of open relationships calls for deep trust

How to Have Better and More Orgasm With a Partner

Sexual pleasure with a partner is like a journey with many exciting stops along the way. The big moment, the orgasm

A Blueprint for Lasting Love: Building the Sound Relationship House

Relationships, much like the homes we live in, require a solid foundation and well-maintained structure to

What Are Erogenous Zones?

In the vast world of intimacy, the knowledge of erogenous zones acts as a compass, guiding you to deeper connections and heightened sensations.

What Do Sexologists Actually Do?

Sexology is the scientific study of human sexual behaviour, including sexual function, relationships, and health. It is a multidisciplinary field that draws on various areas of study,

Understanding ‘Crying During Sex’: Why It Happens and What It Means

Sexual intimacy is a profoundly personal and emotionally charged experience filled with complex

Windows and Walls: Understanding Affairs in Relationships

‘Windows and walls’ is an insightful metaphor proposed by the highly regarded psychologist

The Magic of the 6-Second Kiss

At first glance, a six-second kiss might appear to be a paltry length of time. However, it is far from an insignificant peck on the cheek. It is a deliberate, intimate gesture,

The Double-Edged Sword of Baby-Making Sex

Trying to have a baby is fundamentally a testament to the deep intimacy shared between two people.

How Can I Navigate My Partner’s Opposite-Sex Friendships in Our Relationship?

Navigating the dynamics of opposite-sex friendships within the

Transform Your Relationship Through Marathon Couple Therapy

With longer, more frequent sessions, this approach aims to address deep-seated issues and

The Impact of Purity Culture on Female Sexuality

The messages conveyed often include the glorification of virginity, the demonization of sexual desire, and the enforcement

What Is a Love Map?

Just as a map guides us through unfamiliar territory, a love map helps us navigate the intricate landscape of our partner’s inner world. Developed by relationship expert Dr. John Gottman

In Glorification of Deliberate Intimacy

Intentional intimacy is an overlooked gem that has the power to deepen connections and enhance relationships in ways we may not realize.

A Journey of Gratitude: Reflections on Being a Sexologist

In studying and understanding human sexuality, I have embarked on a career that demands empathy, knowledge, and an open mind.

The Liberating Mirror: Embracing Vulva Confidence for Self-Acceptance

Many women experience shame and embarrassment about their vulvas, the way it looks, smells and might

Rebuilding Bridges: Nurturing Your Relationship After a Fight

What sets successful couples apart is their ability to repair and strengthen their bond after the

Embracing the Power of a Calm Erection

Understanding the role of relaxation in achieving and maintaining an erection is crucial for addressing issues related to performance anxiety

“I Need You to Adore Me”: Exploring the Power of Adoration in Relationships

Adoration is a profound and heartfelt expression of love, respect, and admiration for your partner.

The Complexities of Sexual Arousal: Navigating Arousal Non-Concordance

Welcome to the intriguing world of arousal non-concordance, where your physiological and subjective

How the Gottman Method Teaches Couples the Art of Compromise

The Gottman Method teaches couples how to compromise effectively without sacrificing their

Exploring Sexual Pleasure Through Edging

Edging is a technique that involves stopping stimulation before reaching orgasm, then resuming the activity to build up the pleasure

Debunking the Myth of Vibrator Addiction

You can look at using your vibrators the same way you look at using any other machine. They take the labour out of life and make it more wonderful.

Pain, Partnership, and Pleasure: Coping with Endometriosis

Women usually seek help from sex therapists to address this aspect of endometriosis management or learn to

Mindful Masturbation: Enhancing Sexual Wellness Through Self-Love

Masturbation has been a taboo subject for far too long, shrouded in

Five Must-Read Books on Sexuality for Men

Whether you are looking to improve your sexual performance or looking to explore new fantasies, whatever the case may be,

Bids for Connection: The Secret to Building Stronger Relationships

Bids or requests for connection refer to any attempt by one partner to connect with the other through

Understanding Performance Anxiety in Men

Men often feel pressure to perform well during sex and satisfy their partners. Not only this pressure takes the fun out of sex

How Practicing Mindfulness Can Improve Your Sexual Experiences

mindfulness can be a powerful tool for improving sexual experiences and deepening intimacy between

6 Reasons Why Women Experience Performance Anxiety

To combat performance anxiety during sex, it’s essential to first understand the root cause of the anxiety.

How to Achieve Orgasm During Partnered Sex?

As a sexologist, I understand that achieving orgasm during partnered sex can be complex and multifaceted for some women.

Does Breastfeeding Impact Your Sex Life?

In talking about sexual desire after childbirth, one factor that may be overlooked is how breastfeeding can impact women’s sexual experiences

Five Reasons Why Some Women Struggle to Orgasm During Partnered Sex

It is important to understand the underlying reasons why you might struggle with reaching climax

Five Books To Help You Understand Female Sexuality

Female sexuality has long been a topic of discussion, fascination, and even controversy. Women’s sexual experiences and desires have been the subject

The Impact of Feeling ‘Touched Out’ on Women’s Sex Drive and Intimacy

Being “touched out” refers to the overwhelming exhaustion from constant physical contact and engagement with one’s children.

How Pregnancy and Childbirth Affect Women’s Sexual Desire

Unfortunately, the adverse effects of pregnancy and childbirth on women’s sexuality are often underestimated.

Meta-Emotion: How You Feel About Feelings

How we feel about our feelings, or our meta-emotions, can also have a profound impact on our well-being and relationships. Because meta-emotions dictate

Why Lesbians Enjoy Better Sex Than Heterosexual Couples

While it is true that every individual’s sexual experiences are different, some evidence suggests that lesbians may indeed have better sex than heterosexual couples.

In Praise of Slow Sex: Embracing Intimacy, Connection, and Sensuality in the Bedroom

I often meet clients who feel pressured to have quick and intense sexual experiences, leaving little

How Afterplay Can Strengthening the Bond Between Couples After Sex

Afterplay is the time spent with your partner after sex, where you remain

How Long Should Sex Last?

As a sex therapist, I often get asked, “what is the ideal length of sex?” It’s a valid question, but unfortunately, there is no definitive answer.

The Five Love Languages: Enhancing Your Relationship Through Effective Communication

Love languages are the distinct and diverse ways through which

How Simmering Builds Sexual Desire In Long-Term Relationships

Simmering is a process that entails gradually building up sexual tension over time instead of seeking immediate gratification. 

Tips for Igniting and Sustaining Passion in Your Romantic Relationship

For many individuals, experiencing passion in a romantic relationship is vital to sustaining a healthy and fulfilling partnership. 

What Is An Emotional Bank Account In a Relationship?

In the context of relationships, the term “emotional bank account” refers to the accumulation of positive feelings and experiences

When Your Partner’s Expectations Make It Hard To Orgasm

This pressure can come from different sources, including societal expectations, media portrayals of sex, and even from their partner themselves.

Seven Ways Couple Therapy Can Transform Your Relationship

As a couple therapist, I have had the privilege of working with many couples who have faced a range of challenges in their relationships.

Understanding Your Sexual Desires

As a sex therapist, I often hear from clients, women in particular, struggling to understand what turns them on. It’s a common experience that can sometimes be frustrating and confusing.

The Impact of Delayed Ejaculation on Men’s Sexual and Emotional Health

Delayed ejaculation, also known as inhibited ejaculation, is a common sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to orgasm

Understanding Inhibited Ejaculation

This condition is characterized by the inability to orgasm and ejaculate during sexual activities. Delayed Ejaculation happens despite experiencing normal sexual arousal and erection.

The Impact of Birth Trauma on Sexual Health

As a licenced sex therapist, I frequently work with clients who experienced birth trauma and struggle with intimacy and sexual wellness in the aftermath of that. 

Understanding the Phenomenon of Emotional Flooding

In their research, Drs John and July Gottman notice that flooding occurs when one partner becomes overwhelmed by

Understanding Stonewalling in Couple’s Conflicts 

One of the Four Horsemen in relationships, according to Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s research is stonewalling. The Four Horsemen,

What is the Antidote to Contempt? 

Drs. John and Julie Gottman described contempt as one of the Four Horsemen in relationships. They have discovered in their research that

Breaking the Cycle of Defensiveness in Relationships

Defensiveness is one of the “Four Horsemen” in relationships, according to the research of Drs. John and

Understanding and Overcoming Criticism in Relationships

It also underlines shortcomings or mistakes in the other person rather than addressing a specific

The Four Horsemen: Recognizing Negative Communication Patterns

The 4 Horsemen, criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, can be predictors of relationship distress and, ultimately, failure.

6 Strategies for Enhancing Sexual Intimacy in Your Relationship

When two people are sexually intimate, they are able to express their emotional and physical connection to one another through a wide range of physical, sexual and emotional behaviours

When is it Normal to Lose Your Erections During Intercourse?

Some men may find that their arousal waxes and wanes a few times during sexual activity. While others may experience a more consistent level of arousal. It is important to know that waxing and waning can happen

What is Gottman Method of Couple Therapy?

The Gottman Method of couple therapy is a scientifically proven approach to relationship therapy. This method was developed by

Strategies for Boosting Sexual Attraction in a Long-Term Relationship

Sexual attraction generally encompasses several elements, including physical attraction,

What Are The Benefits Of Consulting A Sex Therapist?

This is a question I get asked a lot. Sex therapy, also known as sexuality counselling, is talk therapy created to support individuals and couples in exploring and addressing their

Is Your Sex life the Casualty of Your Relationship? 

Every time a couple arrive at my office to better their sex life, I try to explore the issue holistically to understand what has

What is a Sexual Memory Bank?

Every sexual relationship has a sexual memory bank. This is the collection of all the experiences you and your partner have ever shared surrounding your sex life.

How Does it Feel to Prematurely Ejaculate During Sex?

Men describe the physical sensation of Premature Ejaculation as a feeling of loss of control, a sense of urgency, or pressure to ejaculate.

When is the Right Time for Couples to Start Therapy?

Your romantic relationship sits at the centre of your life, and how it is going will positively or negatively impact other aspects of your life.

Why do I keep Prematurely Ejaculating? 

Men of all ages are susceptible to the sexual problem known as Premature Ejaculation (PE) or Early Ejaculation. It is characterised by an

What is Erectile Dysfunction or Erectile Difficulty?

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is the inability to obtain or sustain an erection sufficient enough for penetrative sex. The loss of erection

What is Premature or Early Ejaculation ?

A very common sexual problem known as premature ejaculation (PE), or early ejaculation, happens when a man ejaculates prior

Six Common Obstacles Preventing Couples from Seeking Therapy

ome of the main reasons couples go to therapy have been to improve

How to Encourage Your Partner to Attend Sex or Relationship Therapy?

At least a few times a month, I get

With academic backgrounds in Midwifery, Sexology, Counselling and Psychotherapy, Hanieh brings a unique perspective and a well-rounded approach to Sex and Relationship Therapy. In addition to private practice, Hanieh writes a weekly blog about the topics that challenge her clients, hoping it helps others.