The Four Horsemen: Recognizing Negative Communication Patterns

The Four Horsemen: Recognizing Negative Communication Patterns The “four horsemen” is a term coined by Drs. John and Julie Gottman in their decades of research on couples and relationships. These four behaviours, criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, can be predictors of relationship distress and, ultimately, failure. Criticism is the act of attacking one’s character or […]

Six things you can do to improve sexual intimacy in your relationship

Six things you can do to improve sexual intimacy in your relationship Sexual intimacy refers to intimacy or closeness between people during sexual activity or surrounding their sex life. When two people are sexually intimate, they are able to express their emotional and physical connection to one another through a wide range of physical, sexual […]

When is it normal for men to lose their erections during intercourse?

When is it normal for men to lose their erections during intercourse? Men are led to believe that their erection during sexual activity needs to be consistent and that any sign of a loss of erection indicates Erectile Dysfunction. Sometimes this belief results in men being anxious and confused about one of their normal bodily […]

What is Gottman Method of Couple Therapy?

What is the Gottman Method of Couple Therapy? The Gottman Method of couple therapy is a scientifically proven approach to relationship therapy. This method was developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman and is based on over 40 years of research on what makes relationships succeed or fail. The Gottman Method is created to help […]

How do I have more sexual attraction to my partner in a long term relationship?

How do I have more sexual attraction to my partner in a long-term relationship? It can be difficult to define sexual attraction in a long-term relationship, but it generally encompasses several elements, including physical attraction, emotional intimacy, trust, and shared values or interests.  It is very expected for sexual attraction to ebb and flow over […]

What is a Sex Therapist good for?

What is a Sex Therapist good for? This is a question I get asked a lot. Basically, sex therapy, also known as sexuality counselling, is talk therapy that is created to support individuals and couples in exploring and addressing their sexual and relational concerns.  Some of the most common issues clients contact sex therapists for […]

Is your sex life the casualty of your relationship?

Is your sex life the casualty of your relationship?  Every time a couple arrive at my office to better their sex life, I try to explore the issue holistically to understand what has contributed to the problem they are experiencing. Sometimes, in this exploration, the three of us quickly realise that the root of the […]

What is a Sexual Memory Bank?

What is a Sexual Memory Bank? One of the concepts I work on with my clients, especially in couple therapy, is the concept of the sexual memory bank.  Think of it like this; every sexual relationship has a sexual memory bank which is the collection of all the experiences you and your partner have ever […]

How does it feel to Prematurely Ejaculate during sex?

How does it feel to Prematurely Ejaculate during sex? Premature Ejaculation (PE) is defined as the inability to control the timing of ejaculation during sexual activities. The physical sensation of Premature Ejaculation is often described as a feeling of loss of control, a sense of urgency, or pressure to ejaculate. These feelings can negatively impact […]

When is the right time for couples to start relationship counselling?

When is the right time for couples to start relationship counselling? Your romantic relationship sits at the centre of your life, and how it is going will positively or negatively impact other aspects of your life. When your relationship with your spouse is going well, you feel happier, have more energy to concentrate on your […]

Why do I keep Prematurely Ejaculating? 

Why do I keep Prematurely Ejaculating?  Men of all ages are susceptible to the sexual problem known as premature Ejaculation (PE) or Early Ejaculation. It is characterised by an inability to suppress or postpone Ejaculation, which leads to sexual encounters that might be uncomfortable or unsatisfying for both partners.  There are so many factors potentially […]

What is Erectile Dysfunction or Erectile Difficulty?

What is Erectile Dysfunction or Erectile Difficulty? Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is defined as the inability to obtain or sustain an erection sufficient enough for penetrative sex. The loss of erection during sex is a very common condition among men, and many reports having experienced it at some stage in their life. However, ED only refers […]

What is Premature or Early Ejaculation ?

What is Premature or Early Ejaculation? A very common sexual problem known as premature ejaculation (PE), or early ejaculation, happens when a man ejaculates prior to or immediately after sexual penetration. Although there isn’t one definition that applies to all cases of PE, it is typically understood that it happens within a minute of penetration […]

Six reasons that stop people from going to couple therapy

Six reasons that stop people from going to couple therapy  Some of the main reasons couples go to therapy have been to improve how they approach conflicts in their relationship (%45), to work on the lack of desire or love, and to change a particular thing about their relationship. However, many reports that convincing their […]

How to encourage your partner to attend sex or relationship therapy ?

How to encourage your partner to attend sex or relationship therapy? At least a few times a month, I get contacted by someone wanting to begin couple therapy, but their partner is not on the same page. They are desperate to know what they can do and how they can convince their partner to attend […]