Strategies for Boosting Sexual Attraction in a Long-Term Relationship

It can be difficult to define sexual attraction in a long-term relationship. However, it generally encompasses several elements, including physical attraction, emotional intimacy, trust, and shared values or interests. 

It is very expected for sexual attraction to ebb and flow over time. It is normal for attraction to change and evolve throughout the course of your relationship. This can be due to many different factors such as changes you go through as individuals in relationships. Moreover, the changes in life circumstances or shifts in the dynamics of your relationship can also impact that.

Developing more sexual chemistry with your partner can be complex, nuanced, and personal. However, you might be able to do a few things to help cultivate more feelings of desire and attraction towards your partner.

Four things you can do to enhance sexual attraction to your partner;

First, it’s important to understand that attraction is not just physical. It also encompasses emotional and psychological factors. 

This means that building a solid emotional connection with your partner can indirectly feed your sexual desire for them and is vital to developing sexual attraction. This includes things like spending quality time together, having open and honest communication, and sharing personal experiences and feelings.

The second one is openly and honestly communicating with your partner about your sexual needs, desires, and fantasies. 

This not only can help to create a deeper understanding and connection between you, but it can also help to reignite attraction and passion between the two of you.

The Third important aspect of sexual attraction is physical touch and affection. 

This can be from holding hands, cuddling, and kissing to more passionate kisses and making out without it leading to sex. This will create a sense of closeness and intimacy with your partner. Moreover, it works on something we sex therapists call “simmering“; when you keep the fire of sexual tension going in the relationship without going full blast every time. 

Fourth is deepening sexual attraction by having fun together through engaging in activities that you both enjoy. This can include dancing, going for a walk or movies, cooking together or exercising together. 

These can also be a great way to deepen a sense of connection and intimacy in the relationship. 

The process of developing sexual attraction is unique for each person, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. It may take time and effort to build and maintain feelings of attraction and intimacy, but by building a strong emotional connection, having open and honest communication, engaging in physical touch and affection, and having fun together, you can help create a foundation for developing a sexual attraction to your partner.

If you are struggling to develop a sexual attraction to your partner, or it no longer exists, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a therapist. They can help you explore your feelings and identify any underlying issues that may be contributing to this problem. 

I wish you all the best.