Relationship Counselling

Relationship counselling and sex therapy sometimes fit nicely together, but some partners are in need of only relationship therapy. They might have a satisfying sex life, but they seek new ways of relating to one another outside the bedroom.

I believe that sometimes relationships end before they even have a chance to start, and couple counselling can give your relationship that chance. However, partners also need to be motivated and committed to the process and diligently work on their role in their relationship to get the results they desire.

As a relationship counsellor, I provide a therapeutic atmosphere filled with support and acceptance to bring motivated partners into harmony with one another. This environment aims at providing a space for the gradual unfolding of any issues, targeting problematic behaviours and relational patterns, and facilitating a space for change and growth to achieve your desired outcomes.

There are so many myths surrounding couple therapy which leads to couples being apprehensive about the concept. But what if you believe couple therapy would benefit your relationship while your partner does not? If this is the case for you, please read my blog on ways to encourage your partner to attend sex or relationship therapy.

What is my approach to relationship counselling?

Some clients might decide to begin individual counselling to address their relationship challenges. However, after providing relationship counselling for so many years, I believe that relationship counselling is best conducted with the involvement of all parties. 

You and your partner might bring an identified issue to your session, or you are hoping to get some help and transform your relationship. Over the first few sessions, I work on gaining an understanding of you as an individual and as a couple and how your relationship works. I will learn about your goals and what you would like to achieve from therapy. This helps me to design the most appropriate therapeutic strategies tailored to the specific needs of your relationship. This is done whilst providing a safe environment for the gradual unfolding of any issues, targeting problematic behaviours and relational patterns. This will facilitate a space for change and growth in order to achieve your desired results.

My therapeutic approach to couple therapy is a combination of Gottman Theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Attachment theory and psychotherapeutic techniques. In addition to these methods, I offer Marathon Couple Therapy, an intensive approach designed to meet the needs of couples seeking a more concentrated therapeutic experience.

It is understandable that some couples are apprehensive when it comes to relationship counselling. Please do not hesitate to contact me to discuss your concerns in regards to relationship counselling or booking an appointment.

Clients come to see me for relationship counselling to:

Understand their relationship better,
Discover what they desire from their relationship,
Expand or maintain their sense of intimacy,
Develop a secure sense of attachment to each other,
Identify, challenge and overcome negative behavioural patterns,
Learn new ways of interacting with their partner,
Identify, restructure and expand their emotional responses,
Create new ways to connect to their partner,
Learn new ways of communicating,
Learn new ways of resolving relationship difficulties,
Desire to rekindle after an affair,
Reconciliation after separation or divorce.