How Afterplay Can Strengthening the Bond Between Couples After Sex
As a sex therapist, I believe afterplay is as important as foreplay and the main event itself. Afterplay is the time spent with your partner after sex, where you remain connected, engaged, and intimate with each other. Afterplay can last from a few minutes to several hours, depending on the couple’s preference. It is a crucial time for couples to connect emotionally, mentally, and physically.
Some activities couples can engage in include:
1. Cuddling: This is a great way to remain connected physically with your partner after sex. Cuddling helps to release oxytocin, a hormone that promotes bonding and relaxation.
2. Massaging: Massaging or caressing your partner’s back and neck while lying next to one another is an example of afterplay that can create a relaxing atmosphere. It also provides an opportunity for physical touch and intimacy.
3. Sharing feelings: This is a great time to express your feelings and emotions with your partner. Talk about what you liked during the experience, and share your thoughts on making sex better in your relationship. I suggest couples leave the exchange of constructive criticism to another time.
4. Watching a movie or TV show. This can be a great way to unwind and relax after sex. Snuggle up with your partner and enjoy a movie or TV show together.
5. Taking a bath or shower: This is a great way to clean up after sex and relax together. Add some candles, essential oils, or a bubble bath for an extra touch of romance.
6. Having a meal or snack: Sharing a meal or snack with your partner is a great way to continue the intimacy after sex. It provides an opportunity to connect on a deeper level and share experiences.
Why is Afterplay Important?
Afterplay is important for many reasons. Firstly, it helps to maintain the emotional connection between couples. After sex, hormones such as oxytocin often surge, making you feel closer to your partner. Afterplay helps to maintain this connection and strengthen the bond between partners.
Secondly, it can provide an opportunity for couples to communicate and share their thoughts and promote a deeper understanding of each other’s needs and desires.
Thirdly, it can help promote relaxation and reduce stress levels. Sex can be a physically demanding activity, and afterplay allows partners to unwind, feel more comfortable and ease any physical discomfort.
Lastly, it can enhance sexual satisfaction and increase the chances of experiencing more pleasurable and fulfilling sex.
By engaging in afterplay, partners can create a safe, comfortable, and enjoyable sexual environment where both partners feel seen, heard and valued. They can continue to show affection and appreciation for one another, which can help build a stronger, more intimate relationship.
I wish you all the best.